We all have an inner critic – it’s just that for some, the inner critic has such a loud voice that it’s hard to hear anything else.
Whatever the story's root is, expectations and criticisms are often internalized and can be experienced as our belief system. So what can we do about finding a constructive balance?
Recognize the Inner Critic
Befriend the Voice Inside
Recognize Unhealthy Patterns
Unhealthy patterns can quickly turn up the inner critic's volume, so it’s important to consider behaviors that need to be replaced with healthier habits.
Actionable Tips
- Values – Jot down a list of your top 10 values. Then narrow that list to the top 5 in order of importance. Set realistic goals that align with your values and celebrate the successes.
- H.A.L.T. – When the inner critic becomes especially loud, pause, ask yourself if you’re hungry, angry, lonely, or tired, all of which can be affective triggers. Once you spot it, seize the opportunity to do something about it.
- Self-care – Identify a specific time of the week to detox from smartphones and social media, and dedicate it to self-care as part of your weekly schedule. Self-care can be active, such as drawing, making music, or dancing in the living room. Self-care can also be experienced passively, like a relaxing bubble bath or a massage.
- Meditate – Create a daily routine, keep it simple and easy, and start with a couple of minutes each day. Designate a length of time that leads you to feel successful in this practice. Meditation is a powerful opportunity to work on your mental strength and fortitude. It helps build mindfulness muscles to quiet down the inner critic's voice, especially during stressful times.
- Authentic Movement – I can’t miss an opportunity to highlight authentic movement and dance/movement therapy. I believe in it wholeheartedly and have made it a primary focus in my work with patients at Wellbridge. Establish (or reconnect with) an embodied practice of moving from one’s impulses toward self-understanding and compassion. This practice involves a blend of movement and discussion, offered by movement psychotherapists, and provides a wonderful avenue to bring the subconscious storyline into a more conscious and empathic state.
WRITTEN BY
Kendra KiraneKendra Kirane is the Director of Creative Arts Therapy and Wellness at Wellbridge Addiction Treatment and Research. She emphasizes the universal language of art as an essential process in therapy – empowering individuals to be seen, heard, and understood on the path toward recovery. Recognizing wellness is a key feature of sustainability, Kendra prioritizes delivery of mindfulness, fitness, and psychotherapy and to promote restoration and healthy lifestyle choices. Kendra entered the field in 2006 and gained a deep appreciation for the complex clinical needs of patients with substance use disorders (SUD) with a specific focus on the intersection between SUD and trauma. She provided trauma-informed dance/movement therapy for adult survivors of 9/11 at the World Trade Center Environmental Health Center and Bellevue Hospital inpatient units. In 2018 she transitioned to Union Settlement, launching their Early Childhood Mental Health Program while providing supervision for social workers and creative arts therapists. Kendra has taught throughout the New York metropolitan area – striving to highlight dance/movement therapy as a unique response to the opioid crisis. Kendra is a New York State Licensed Creative Arts Therapist and Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist. She received a BA in Theatre Arts from UC Santa Cruz and MS in Dance/Movement Therapy from Pratt Institute. She completed a fellowship in psychoanalysis from The Psychoanalytic Association of New York affiliated with NYU School of Medicine, and certifications in Authentic Movement, as well as Arts and Trauma Treatment.