Ladies, can we talk?  No, I mean really talk without putting on airs and pretending to be someone else.  The kind of talk you have on girls’ night when you put your hair in a ponytail and pour a glass of wine and just be yourself for a few hours.
Yes, relax and take the makeup off, and I don’t just mean the stuff on your face.  As women, we try to fit in everyone’s expectations of who we should be and in the course of time, we lose who we really are.  We have mastered the mask of shielding our pain, our insecurities, our dreams, and our desire in some cases just to satisfy someone else.
I came to tell you the Power you possess knows no boundaries, but in order to unleash your Brilliance, you must embrace your Uniqueness.  You will never know self-love in its fullness until you have self-appreciation. 
When you look in the mirror, what do you see?  Are you plagued with thoughts of what they said about you may be true?  Maybe you aren’t good enough or smart enough or pretty enough to accomplish what you want.
Stop it right there!!
Whatever happened in your past is just that, IN YOUR PAST.  Leave it there.  Anyone who thought so little of you does not deserve a seat at your table of truth. 
Lady, take it from me, I have spent 65 years on this earth and have seen and been involved in enough trauma to know what I am talking about.  You are not a mistake and again, as a woman, you possess strength and resilience unequalled to any other living creature.  Now I can tell you this all day long, but until you can look yourself in the mirror and believe it about yourself, you won’t excel in your full potential.   I know there have been hard times and failures, even for some of you, unimaginable abuse.  But all that goes to prove I am right because you are still here.  You may feel you are barely making it, but YOU ARE STILL HERE!
It is time to heal, time to forgive, time to move beyond the past and step into your rightful place as the incredible person you are.  It doesn’t matter what they did or what you did.  The thing that matters is what are you going to do now.  Stop emulating what you see on TV or social media.  Stop imitating the person you admire or think you should act like. 
It is time to unveil the real you.  The rare jewel unlike any other in the world that you are.  There is a reason why we are all uniquely different.  It is because we each have a distinctive role to play in the success of others.
If you don’t show up as your authentic self, someone (you included) is going to miss out on the wonder of you!  Girl, it is time you unmask yourself and be uniquely you!  You were created to be a light, stop trying to fit in.  When light walks into the room, darkness must go.  Go forth and Unleash the Power of your BRILLIANCE!  Take your rightful seat at the table of Authority and be confident that is where you belong!
If you have enjoyed this article join the author of it Dr. Coylette James at the annual women empowerment event, the Women Thrive Summit held in March to hear Coylette speak about:
"The POWER of your BRILLIANCE: Embracing your unique self Self Value, How others perceive you, You are your product, There is greatness within you, Take your seat at the table of Authority "
Dr. Coylette James Influence Igniter, Speaker, Author, Entrepreneur and the founder of Kingdom Influencer.Life. 
Recognized as a powerful Speaker, Teacher and Role Model with a gift for impacting people on all economic, social and age levels, Coylette James impacts many lives.
As the founder of Kingdom Influencer.Life, Coylette is currently encouraging Leaders to become agents of Influence creating living legacies in the lives of all with whom they interact. When asked about her own living legacies, she will tell you of her two passions outside of her Family which are Entrepreneurship and Women. As a Minister of the Gospel, she is promoting entrepreneurship through her Kingdom Empowerment Seminars, which encourages Christians to incorporate the Spiritual things of God with the Natural things of business to achieve SUPERNATURAL success. Her women’s Ministry, Covenant Daughters Ministries, is a mentor-ship organization for women in ministry. She is also the Founder of Warrior Women of Color which encourages Women from all ethnic backgrounds and Social Statuses to band together to give voice to their fierceness as women while embracing the greatness which lies inside them.
After three years of study, Dr. Coylette received her Doctor of Arts in Divinity Degree in 2021 from Kingdom Builders Bible Seminary.
Prior to launching her speaking career, Dr. James worked for famed boxing promoter Don King for 28 years. This experience has enhanced her ability to minister to people from all walks of life. As a licensed Minister and Ordained Elder, the wisdom gained travelling the world and interacting with many different cultures has truly heightened her appreciation for diversity.
A wife, mother of 2, Grandmother of 8, and Great-Grandmother of 4, Coylette's plate is always full, but she would not have it any other way."