If you're searching for ways to fix your marriage on the internet, then it's safe to say you aren't in the best position. Let's start by saying, take a breath. If you want to save your marriage then there is still a chance for you both. Marriage is a difficult union, relationships are tested, children causing stress -- these are all normal life quirks and all require more than a few moments of thought, in fact, they require in-depth thought from both parties.
In this article, we are going to take a look at a few ways to start the journey of mending your broken marriage. Nothing can be guaranteed, but if you are in it for the right reasons, then these could be seen as efficient methods to mend and heal.

Communication Is Key

Let's start with something that almost every human on the planet has or will struggle with at some point in their life -- communication. The glue, love, hate, release, tension, admiration, and adoration all come in the form of communication, and without it, there isn't a basis for anything, let alone a fulfilling relationship. You have to be able to communicate and talk about anything and everything whilst being on a life journey together. Without this ability, everything else will break down around it.
Look at what made you both fall in love in the first place, revisit old haunts, look at old photos, listen to your song, and talk about it. Most couples fade away from each other when the talking stops, so revisit these memories, write them down, and talk about them. Whilst you're doing this, you can take a look at why you both feel as though your marriage has faded. What has gotten in the way? What went wrong? Why do you feel distant? These are all important questions to work through together.

Marriage Counselling Is Worth It

If you've reached the point where you've both decided that marriage counseling is a good idea, then you're in a good place to start a journey with the destination of fixing your relationship. You have both agreed to work on your marriage and that is something that should be held high between you both, even if communication is still a little faded.
A counselor will allow you to air everything you want to within a safe space and will control any feelings that are damaging. They will give you the tools effectively to deal with day to day life and allow you to reach important breakthroughs regarding your relationship. It's difficult, but you can read more here about what you need to do to take the first step to fix your marriage. If you believe there is a chance, then there absolutely is, and it's worth doing everything you can to save it.

Learn To Listen Again

Similar to communication, listening is also hugely important in regards to your relationship. It's all well and good talking a lot, but it's pointless if one of you isn't listening. You need to be able to show genuine interest to your partner. There aren't many that share their inner thoughts and emotions with another person unless they actually care about them. Show your partner you can be that person by listening and giving them the interest and respect they deserve.
A good technique to implement is commenting occasionally on what you're both talking about. A brief summary, if you will, about what you're talking about will show your partner that you're listening and are interested.
Listening isn't just about verbal cues. Learn to read nonverbal messages as the majority of human communication is expressed through them. Knowing and understanding them will enable you to communicate better.
Lastly, you need to be able to set aside your own emotional reaction to truly listen. You can get frustrated, angry, or upset with something that's been said, but if it's how the other person is feeling, then it requires and deserves respect. Put your ego down and find out what's wrong with your partner.

Don't Let Distractions Get In The Way

It's easy to let in external distractions into your marriage. Children and other work commitments do get in the way, that's normal, life is busy. But that doesn't mean you have to leave it at that. Make time for yourselves and actually use it. Go on date nights, watch a film together, sit down for dinner at least once a week together. The more you do together in your own time, the more time you have to work on your marriage.
Marriage isn't easy, those that believe it is are either liars or they aren't truly in their marriage themselves. Every day will require a little bit more work, some more love, some more understanding. It's a journey of twists and turns and the roads are rarely clear. Hold on to the small things in your partnership, the little things, the smile. If you want to fix your marriage, then you hold all the answers, it's possible and you'll be able to with some hard work and determination.

WRITTEN BY

Daria Brown