Imagine selling a graphic art design that looked like a pretty image of nature. But really, the base photo is your Pussy! Well, while I was lying on my couch during this pandemic, my naughty inner teenager surfaced. She was bored and desperately looking for something to do, which led me to reach down and take a snapshot of the most sacred spot on my body, and then using my favorite app to layer and create, and voila! Art! AND I posted it on my IG page for all to see, "would anyone notice?" 
Two days later, I realized, if I thought this was fun, so would others! So on Monday night in my women's group, The Awkward Enchanted Coven, I created a one-day art challenge during a "Pussy Power Hour" session: do this same thing with your vulva, then make it into art. About eight women did the challenge, and I made a short video with music; it was amazing - playful, naughty, and empowering. One of the women posted it on her regular Facebook page, and then lo and behold. She got an offer to sell it! After many hours of deliberation about price, she sold a print of the photo!
Cha-ching for the naughty girl! Imagine never having sold artwork, and now this challenge, which started of boredom, created a paid artist?!
That is a perfect example of how we ALL have inner bad girls. And these girls are fun, have great ideas, and, most importantly, like to fight back from years of the internalized fear of "getting in trouble." This fear kept us small. We are not afraid of making bold moves anymore - it is now easy and freeing. 
As a behaviorist, what I found from speaking to hundreds, if not thousands of women, is that: women still live in fear (just as they did as teens) of getting in trouble.
With who? The answer wasn't so clear, but this fear is so real, it stops women from showing up to dance classes, dressing up, and even looking at themselves. It's a terrible epidemic of women thinking they are foundationally flawed and a lifelong fear of getting in trouble or getting caught "faking it." 
I would love to say that this goes away, but it doesn't. It comes up for me every so often, and I know this inner voice very well. This voice is directly connected to how I felt ALL the time as a teenager.
That voice you kept hearing as a child, telling you to do what you're told or else you'll get in trouble, never really goes away. 
All the cool girls were trouble makers in my world, so of course, I wanted to be like them! I'll admit it, although getting into trouble was the "cool thing," it was pretty scary. Those girls were tough, and I was a softie. I also grew up in a somewhat volatile home where anger was very much present. Because of what I witnessed, I felt like my rage was unmanageable.
Our brains take on this punishment model as truth. Either be a good girl, or you'll get in trouble. Meanwhile, the inner bad girl still lives in us and has a lot of opinions and fears.
And if she runs the show by taking over a woman's decision-making process and acting like a victim, that's a recipe for disaster. At work, when my inner teenager is running the show, I start not wanting to call people back, I disregard my deadlines and go into total insolation. And to top it all off, I bully myself by calling myself "lazy," "incompetent," "loser," and on and on. 
It is possible to work with your inner Bad Girl, though, rather than having her run the show. The value and genius of the non-victim inner bad girl are that she calls out and gives permission to all the other bad girls - this creates excitement in life, especially in business! Using my pussy art as an example, I was in a pissy, rebellious mood when I took the photo. I was lazily lying around with my phone and produced art. Was I lazy, or was I relaxing? The grown-up, responsible Goddess in me was relaxing, and the angry, pissy teenager was lazy. Who is right? I get to decide, and after this occurrence, which I added to the track record of my wins, I remembered that when I play with the teenager in me that gets in trouble, in a way that is fun and ooooh, so naughty, others want to do it too.
Business is a fun place to bring the bad girl. There are so many ways to be a good girl in business: have a coach, make a funnel, hire this one and that one, and yay, overproduction time.
Or so many businesswomen spend so much time being busy and getting stuck in a getting-ready-to-get-ready mode that they never show up. Their inner teenager is so afraid of getting in trouble, they don't take the stage, and when the teenager is running the "show," she is dependent on others liking her, and that fear of someone calling bullshit on them keeps them dodging the big stage, scared, "safe", and small; YUCK.
Brilliant ideas in business should be fun, edgy, and exciting. If they are not, then they go unnoticed. Or they take a TON of time, money, and energy to promote. It's an excellent trick to get familiar with these inner child voices (of all ages.) It is no secret that many entrepreneurs' problems (that they pay so much to fix) stem from our younger years. The secret is, if you can tune in to your issues as a young one, you can speak to them and share transparently about them, creating trust and familiarity with potential clients. 
The integrated and empowered inner bad girl can tap into universal feelings:
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How many successful inventions, Apps, and services we love to use were created by people listening to and respecting their inner bad girl or teenager's desires? Think of all the apps that indulge our inner teenagers by delivering us our favorite meals or desserts on demand? Think of the Apps that help us edit our photos and post them for the world to see - to get the attention our inner child profoundly craves.
If you tap into your inner bad girl and her deepest desires and needs, what product or service might you invent? 
So sisters! Please get to know your inner bad girl; whisper to her! Choose to listen, and play on her terms, and then she will not run the show.  

WRITTEN BY

Shane Kulman