Be honest, have you noticed that in some houses and apartments you feel uncomfortable? You visit, the owner welcomes you warmly, everything is fine. But all the same, some discomfort remains inside, as if your surroundings are pressing on you, making you uncomfortable or even afraid. It happens the other way around too, it’s the first time you’re at someone's house, but you feel completely calm and comfortable.

What is the reason for such strange behavior in our psyche?

Psychologists say that someone’s home can tell a lot more about the inhabitant than they can themselves. Experts even divide people into several categories depending on how they arrange their living space:

  • “Man-circle” tries to gather around them everything that is most comfortable, warm and soft. They are very attached to family values, decorations and memorabilia. Usually their housing is a kind of museum in which it is very interesting to examine and study everything.
  • "Man-triangle" strives to always be in the spotlight. They deliberately surround themself with a variety of bright, colorful, often expensive details and interior elements to demonstrate that “I'm not like everyone else, I’m better!". When a stranger enters such an environment, they may unwittingly develop an uncomfortable feeling of being second-rate.
  • "Man-square" by nature is a functionalist. They equip their home in such a way that it is comfortable and functional. Nothing extra, only the bare necessities. These people are minimalists. An outsider's eye in their housing simply has no reference points. Their apartments often seem half-empty, which can cause some discomfort to visitors, as if they came to visit while the owner was decorating.

There is another interesting category, "Man-zigzag". For such people, chaos or the so-called "creative disorder" usually reigns in the apartment. They don't care too much about what others think, they're comfortable as they are. But this does not mean at all that a person does not give a damn about their surroundings. Most likely, they are just very obsessed with what they love, and temporal matters are simply not so important for them.

Ways to make your home your business card

There was a scene in Sex and the City when a young man came to visit the main character, saw her luxurious apartment and then decided to break off the relationship because he felt unworthy and not successful enough for such a woman. And this is not really an invention of the writers. Such cases are quite common. Guys feel insecure if a girl is more successful than them. And the girls are afraid to link their destiny with underprivileged guys because of the uncertainty that their joint future may turn out to be quite impoverished. Often such fears turn out to be completely unjustified, but it can be very difficult to overcome stereotypes.

But all of the above does not mean at all that only a richly furnished and sterile apartment can leave a good impression of you. Overt displays of wealth and cleanliness sometimes only push away.

We want to offer you some tips on how to equip your home so that any guest or date is comfortable there, and the impression they get of you is very positive.

Put things in order

This is the main and at the same time the simplest advice. Maintain cleanliness and order around you. A cluttered room that hasn't been cleaned in months is definitely not what your guest or video chat partner wants to see. And your slovenliness can strongly turn off even someone who has already developed warm feelings for you.

Remove any reminders of past relationships

Don't keep your ex's belongings at home, don't keep framed photos of you together in a visible location, and so on. You may not pay attention to them, but the other person will definitely notice them and may draw the wrong conclusions.

Do not keep things visible that could cause upset

Take a close look at your surroundings and make sure there is nothing compromising there. Adult magazines, alcohol bottles, dubious books, all this and much more can greatly spoil someone’s impression of you. We advise you to either throw away such things, or at least put them away from prying eyes. Their presence will definitely not play to your advantage.

Use the environment as a way to tell your story

This can be done in a variety of ways. Posters of your favorite bands, pictures of authors on the walls, a selection of books on a shelf, or even origami figures can tell a lot about you. Little things like that generate interest, grab attention, make the other person understand more about your hobbies, interests, and vocation. They perfectly reveal your individuality.

Avoid sterility

There is a very thin line between order in your apartment and sterility. The main thing is to find it and not step over it. Sterile cleanliness can make a person feel that they are not in a residential building, but in some kind of museum or even a hospital. Your excessive meticulousness and pedantry can play a cruel joke on you and only push the other person away.

Remember that you need to follow these tips even in cases where you do not plan to invite someone to visit. In recent years, communication between people has increasingly taken place via video. And believe us, a webcam perfectly shows the environment around you.

Since the beginning of the Covid-19 pandemic, online video chats have become especially popular, platforms that connect random users via video. When using video chat, you must understand that the other user sees not only you, but also what surrounds you. Make sure that your environment is pleasant, tidy and not repulsive. Clutter in the background will definitely not add attractiveness points for you. And while we’re talking about this format of communication, we advise you to choose tried and tested online video chats: coomeet.com, camsurf.com, chatrandom.com, bazoocam.org. They have proven themselves well, have a large and active audience, high image and sound quality.

Important: Almost any modern online video chat app allows you to communicate not only using the webcam on your computer or laptop, but also a smartphone or tablet. This means that you will be able to talk while moving around, so your background will not be static. Make sure that everywhere in your home is clean and tidy, not just where you are right now.

Your home can be your best advantage

In this article we’ve shown how your home can become a real business card that creates a glowing impression of you. So before inviting someone to visit or starting an online video chat, make sure you follow our advice and make your apartment or at least one room look presentable and personal.

Remember that it’s not at all necessary to try to maintain perfect cleanliness and erase every speck of dust. But at least it's worth keeping some order. Not just your personal life depends on it, but also your productivity. After all, order in your house and your  workplace helps you concentrate on the most important things, not be distracted by trifles and irritations. Live, work and communicate with other people in comfort