So your partner has popped the question- what do you do now? If it’s your first time going through the demanding and rewarding process of getting married, the number one thing you should do is get excited. There is a long road ahead of you, but the love of your life will be with you every step of the way. If you’re planning on tackling the job yourself, there are some things you should know before you get started. This beginner’s guide to your big day will cover 7 of the major stops along the way to your perfect loved-up moments. What are you waiting for? Read on for wedding pearls of wisdom and a sneak peek at what you have in store.

1. Plan It Out

The first step to any event worth its salt is planning, planning, and…did I mention planning? Weddings are notoriously difficult and hectic to plan, so being organized and prepared is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself, your partner, your families, and your wedding attendees. That is why stage one should always start with some serious groundwork. Budgeting, booking, and bargaining early on in your planning process will ensure your finances, venues, guest lists, entertainment, and vendors are taken care of well in advance. This can alleviate stress while also avoiding potential scheduling conflicts. It also gives guests ample time to make accommodations, so everyone that you want present on your big day will be there.

2. Raise Some Money

Though budget should be one of the first things you consider, a wedding can be a prohibitively expensive event to finance by yourself. Traditionally, the bride’s parents pay for most of the significant expenses, but modern-day financial agreements can differ quite a bit. In the case of reception financing, it may be worth considering holding a stag and doe. Not only can these be an excuse to see your friends and have a good time, but they are also often extremely useful fundraising tools. Utilizing 50/50 draws and other such purchase-driven games can help to raise thousands of dollars for your ceremony or reception in a single night. Modern problems call for modern solutions!

3. Set The Tone

Wedding days aren’t referred to as big days for no reason- they are massively impactful and personal landmarks. While it’s true that there are many moving parts associated with making an event of such scale run smoothly, weddings should also be intimate and joyful affairs. That’s why it’s so important that you have a clear vision for the way things you want things to look and feel. Little things like creative invitations or hand-crafted playlists can take a wedding from a daunting event to an individualized celebration without compromising on the things that matter. Unique flair, well-thought-out decor, and personalized touches around every corner will create the setting and atmosphere of your dreams.

4. Sparkling Ceremony

There are plenty of different factors that go into creating the most perfect and memorable wedding ceremony you can imagine. From the guests to the vows, everything somehow comes together at the last minute to create an electric and emotional event. One of the guaranteed ways to ensure you appreciate all the blood, sweat, and tears that go into planning the perfect ceremony is to hire a wedding videographer probably. Not only should the right videographer understand and share your aesthetic vision, but they will also be able to capture moments that you might not otherwise remember. After all the preparation, you owe it to yourself and your partner to keep a piece of your special day long after the last guest leaves.

5. Relaxed Reception

If the ceremony is the spectacle you’ve always dreamed about, the reception should be the chance for you to take a breath, grab a drink, and talk to the people who cleared their schedule to watch you tie the knot. Especially for those friends and family members who were at your wedding party, emotions will be running high. Countless hours and dollars have been spent on this day- you should be able to enjoy it as much as possible. The reception is just as much for your guests as it is for you and your partner. Everyone will want to mingle, have some food, let down their hair, and catch up with people they haven’t seen in a while. Receptions are consistently the high point of a wedding day for attendees. Maybe shelling out for an open bar might not be such a bad idea after all?

6. Harmonized Honeymoon 

After all the hustle and bustle of planning and executing a wedding, the honeymoon is an often overlooked and much-needed transition from newly wedded life to real life. Even if a tropical getaway is well outside your budget, it’s important to carve out quality time post-reception so that you and your partner can be alone. When it comes down to it, a wedding is a fanfare to represent that you are making a serious and long-term commitment to another individual. The strength and harmony of your intimate bond will last well after you have put away your wedding dress. Organizing a period of rest and rejuvenation can often be beneficial to you and your partner individually, as well as to the health of your relationship.

7. Saying Thanks

They say it takes a village to raise a baby, and the same can be said for a wedding. So many different people are involved in the planning and execution of a wedding, not to mention the financing, that it seems only right to make sure everyone feels appreciated. To plan a wedding the right way, you should be prepared to immediately send thank you cards and follow-ups to any gifts you receive following the ceremony. Making social media posts is nice, but remember to personally thank anyone who helped make your day special. Family members, bridesmaids, and groomsmen should all get special shoutouts.
There you have it, a rough guide to all of the things you should be putting on your “to do” to say “I do.” Though most resources will emphasize planning, in the spirit of love and celebration, it’s important to make everyone feel valued from the start. Personalized touches, gratitude, and lots of one on one time with your loved ones will take your wedding journey from a chore to a dream and reaffirm all of the reasons you believe in your impending marriage in the first place! 

WRITTEN BY

Daria Brown