Turning The Tables When The Odds Are Stacked Against You

Turning The Tables

When The Odds Are Stacked Against You

I’m not supposed to be here.

At least that’s what the statistics said. According to all the studies, and the declarations of negative people in my life, if I did survive my gang-riddled neighborhood, it would be unwed with several children by my side, a dead-end, low-paying job, and a future that lacked hope. That’s what the statistics said.

But I had a different ending for my story.

I’ve always known I was destined for great things. Don’t ask me how I knew. I just did…it couldn’t have been my environment. After all, the mean streets of Sacramento can shatter anyone’s dreams. In fact, my Meadowview neighborhood was dubbed “Danger Island” and although it was nestled between the affluent Pocket/Greenhaven area and lower middle class, Mack Road, it was not a place you wanted to be caught outside after dark.  

I never have settled for the norm. Even as a little girl, from a broken home, I knew that my destiny was greater than my existence. After all, I’d survived abuse, both sexual and physical, and my life had been spared more times than I could count.

While my story may be deemed a rags to riches tale, it’s bigger than that. So much bigger. It’s about an ordinary girl who decided she was capable of extraordinary things. It’s about a woman who took all the obstacles tossed in her path of life and used them as stepping stones to bigger and better things.

I worked my way up through the rigors of corporate America, the ups and downs of being an entrepreneur, the frustrations of trying to maintain a proper work-family balance, I’ve learned many valuable lessons.

Now, as my company – which started from my kitchen – is a top selling, iconic natural hair care brand, I have singlehandedly changed not only my destiny, but my children’s legacy.

Of course, creating a successful business doesn’t come without a cost and if you’re not careful, that cost can be your family.

Any successful entrepreneur will tell you, having it all is a lot easier said than done. Building a business, a thriving business, requires long hours and lots of sweat equity. Even if you have a plethora of cash, the sweat equity alone can take a toll on your family.

A support system is crucial in building a business. Whether it’s your parents, siblings, relatives, friends or neighbors, if you have a family, you simply can’t go at it alone.

There isn’t a one size fit all solution to having it all, but I have found  a host of common threads among successful entrepreneurial mothers.

It’s about a woman who took all the obstacles tossed in her path of life and used them as stepping stones to bigger and better things.
Organization is key!

Nothing adds stress to your life more than trying to find an important file that is buried under mounds of paperwork. Or trying to remember what time the baby’s doctor appointment is because you didn’t write it down. You have to get and stay organized. Your work time is precious and not as dependable as it would be if you worked in a traditional workplace. You can’t afford to waste time looking for files, sorting through junk mail or even finding a piece of paper to write on. Keep everything clean and organized from the start.

Proper planning.

Whether you use an old fashioned organizer or rely solely on your latest gadget, you’d be amazed at how a planner can help balance your work life with their family life, manage your daily tasks, and help prioritize your lie. (My personal favorite is my iPhone and all of the amazing applications for business owners). Of course, being flexible.

is key because at some point, your sitter will call in sick, your child will have a meltdown and your spouse may get called in to work.

Include the kids.

Sometimes, our children just want to be in the same room with us. When your children are little, child-proof your office and bring them in. Give them their own little space, and their own little tasks, and you’d be amazed, the kids will feel like they’ve gotten some mommy time while you’ve gotten some work done.

It’s good enough.

Let’s face it, we all weren’t meant to be Barbara Billingsley, you know, the “Leave it to Beaver” mom who made lunches and homemade cookies for snacks? So what you had to go to the store to buy cookies for your daughter’s class party? Your priorities are your family and then your work. Don’t feel bad about being a store-bought cupcakes kind of mom. Find your ‘good enough’ and be happy with it.

Focus, focus, focus.

One of the challenges many entrepreneurial moms face is managing tasks while trying not to get sidetracked by children, laundry, dishes, etc. Make a list each month of what you intend to get done. Then break the list down week by week, then day by day. If you stay focused, you can stay committed to getting things done.

Ask for help.

It’s very difficult to succeed without help, be it from your partner, family member or someone you hire. Communicate with your partner about how he can help you – you both need to remember you’re juggling two full-time jobs. Figure out how to parent and chore-share so you’re both on the same page. I have had to outsource things (things that used to make me feel guilty), but I’ve learned that asking for help is essential to getting it all done. We have a housekeeper. I used to feel guilty about that. I had to finally tell myself that the amount of time it would take me to clean the house, given my daily workload and mommy duties, just wasn’t worth it.

Don’t forget about you.

In the grand scheme of trying to have it all, we often put ourselves on the back burner. It is crucial that you take care of you. How can you work out when you don’t have enough time with your kids? How can you take a bubble bath when you need to make a presentation? Realize now that there will never be enough time in the day to get everything done. Your in-box will still be full when you die, so learn to accept that fact now. It may seem like a cliché, but in this case, it’s the truth: You have to take care of yourself in order to take care of your family, your business and your home. If mama isn’t  happy, nobody will be.

My story can be your story. And if you walk away with nothing else, I hope that you’ll understand my motto: When you wake up in the morning you have two choices – go back to sleep and dream your dreams, or wake up and chase your dreams.  

I choose the latter. What will your choice be?

Mahisha Dellinger

CURLS Beauty Brands Founder & OWN Tv Personality

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