10 Questions To Ask To Change Your Mind For The Better10 Questions To Ask ToChange Your Mind For The BetterPhoto Courtesy of GreatistShares How many thoughts did you have today that you also had yesterday?Ever think about it? We’re broken records, ruminating on the same events, people, hang-ups, and to-do lists over and over again. Are you ready to hear about the impact those thought loops have on our actual, well, lives?As co-founder of Handel Group and a life coach for over 20 years, I’ve seen countless numbers of people stay stuck in their day-to-day lives until they make the conscious decision to change and evolve into something better. Photo Courteys of Langley GroupLuckily, you don’t have to wait another day or be stuck any longer. I have a quick roadmap to use when determining what is keeping you “stuck” at any time of year, and it has nothing to do with the weather and everything to do with you: Personal Integrity: When what you say and do aligns with your highest values. You can break integrity down into three connected components: physical, emotional, and spiritual. In any given moment, from the lens of these three categories, you can understand why you are where you are in reference to how you think and see your life. I’ll elaborate:Physical: Exercise, diet, sleep, personal space, and any actions you are taking in this arena.Emotional: How your physical actions are making you feel and how you react to the actions of others.Spiritual: In a macro sense, how you feel about your life, how you see your path, and how you relate to the bigger picture. How connected you feel to what’s going on around you.Here’s a fact: whether you know it or not, these three factors are already at work in your own life. So often, we can’t see their patterns because we invented the patterns ourselves, through our beliefs, habits, and character traits. Many of my clients come to me fully aware of their space in those three arenas, but totally oblivious to the connection between them. Like a little black box in our head, that information reveals the how and why of what’s really going on in our lives. Photo Courtesy of Parenting HubSo how do we change the message? Breaking into that inner black box is the key to becoming unstuck, but it requires a thorough investigation of your inner dialogue (thoughts). Most people are hesitant to admit that their inner dialogue is controlled by fear and negativity, or they don’t even realize it’s happening. They continue to self-sabotage and then feel all the worse for dropping the ball, breaking their promises, and selling out on their dreams.You can gain insight into your own Personal Integrity by asking yourself the following 10 questions, and being honest: 1. What have you accomplished in life that you are most proud of?2. How were you the driver in those accomplishments?3. What areas of your life are not working for you?4. How are you responsible for those things that aren’t working?5. How would you rate your integrity in these areas on a scale of 1-10: physical, emotional, and spiritual?6. What are you saying to yourself about your life in the areas that aren’t working?7. What actions are you taking (or not taking!) in the areas of life that aren’t working?8. What are your dreams in the areas you want to improve?9. Can you spot the pattern linking your actions to the way you feel on a daily basis?10. How do you think changes in one area would affect another area?Truth is, in areas where you are succeeding, you have harnessed your mind. If you have a great career, a hot and healthy body, an awesome family, you have indeed figured something out in those areas. You have figured out how to smell the fresh bread at a fancy restaurant, hand the bread basket back to the waiter, and order and eat the kale. You can be powerful in a meeting, even if you’re premenstrual (or your partner is). You know how to harness your mind and tell it to stop talking smack to you. Heck, you have even figured out that if you don’t listen to that inner voice of yours, it shuts up.But in every other area of your life where you are not winning (yet), you haven’t dealt with this. You haven’t separated yourself from your inner dialogue, your thoughts, and your theories. Who is catching them?Answer: no one.Except now you are going to start separating yourself from them. This exercise does more than just revisit the New Year’s resolutions you’ve half-committed to. It’s the “why” of your promises, and connects you back to your dream for the big picture of your life. It lets you see how any one thing you’re doing (or not doing) has a ripple effect on other areas of your life, and shows you where your attention is most needed. More than anything, it addresses the voices in your head that are calling the shots, and gives you the opportunity to change the message you are sending yourself.The good news is that every single day is a chance to experiment — with a new plan, a different practice, or a modified perspective. “How will I feel if I meditate four days in a row?” “What will happen if I alter this one thing?” Experiment, and then watch the changes as they happen before your eyes.Whatever you do, don’t wait for spring cleaning to take an inventory of your current situation and do a thorough integrity check. Just as an action plan for “bathing suit season” starts months in advance of summer, an action plan for your life starts today, and it starts with changing your mind. Give it a try! Lauren ZanderLauren Zander is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker, and the Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group®, an international coaching company based in New York City. She is the author of Maybe It’s You: Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, Love Your Life.